Dating advice for short men

Eventually, we all grew up and being tall proved to be kind of awesome.

But that guy's comment (and online dating in general) brought me right back to that awkward stage.

Over the years, I've dated men of all shapes and sizes—some taller, some shorter—without a second thought. Thanks to a Tinder binge, I've noticed height is an issue again—or maybe it never really went away.

But it feels like all of a sudden, because we're mostly meeting online first and not in person, height discrepancies have become a big thing, to the point where their "number" is one of the only facts most guys list on their profiles.

I know many an otherwise open-minded woman who swears that she would never date someone shorter than she is, and I used to count myself among them. According to the CDC, the average height difference between men and women is 5.5 inches (coincidentally — or maybe not — that’s about the same length as the average erect penis. And both men and women feel pressure to adhere to height norms: One 2008 study of college students found that about 50 percent of guys wanted their partners to be shorter than them, while 90 percent of women wanted their partners to be taller than them.

I clock in at 5-foot-10, a good 6 inches taller than the average American woman, and had never considered dating a guy shorter than me until I ended up falling for one — and I’m happy I did. I’m here to tell you that this requirement is overrated. Guys who are comfortable with you being taller are likely comfortable with your ambition, intellect, and talent too.

Having heard short male clients of mine complain about their jeopardized status in the dating pool, I can speak for at least some of them when I say that short men believe that women see them as less than or deficient, as if models pulled off an assembly line because they don’t measure up to the others.

If we conceptualize the dynamic along a continuum of developmental stages, it’s as if women see short men as awkward teens stunted in time, desperate at a school dance and relegated to the side wall.

A 2014 working paper from the National Bureau of Economic Research on men’s heights and relationship dynamics found that on average, short men (here defined as 5-foot-7 and below) did eight hours and 28 minutes of housework per week, or about 28 percent of the total.When all men were hunters, dating the tallest one was a wise option. If you’re short and think you can ignore your wardrobe, it’s a mistake.A taller man was a stronger man, a better hunter, and a better provider. Following the biological choice now may come as an anachronism. You definitely can add a couple of inches if you make the right choices. showed that in 92.5 percent of opposite-sex couples, the man was taller than the woman.A guy who can look at all those statistics and societal pressures and say "eff that" is less likely to be threatened by other ways that you buck gender stereotypes — for example, instead of feeling weird about you getting a raise or showing off your superior sports knowledge, he’ll celebrate the fact that he’s with someone who doesn’t make herself smaller to accommodate others.2. guys from 20 to 29 years of age are under 5-foot-10, the average male height, while only about 20 percent of guys exceed the 6-foot mark.